Tips for a Healthy Happy Mind.
Hi, are you happy, truly happy? This morning when I woke up I was very happy. Reflecting now I wanted to share with you what I do to make myself feel happier; when I am stressed and depressed, my Crohn’s flairs. Crohn’s seems to benefit more when I am happy. It’s not just one thing or action that makes me happy; it’s a combination of many actions. Yes, it’s actions that I make myself do that creates the happy feeling.
First, it’s how I think. It’s a choice that I make in the mornings when I get up. I can either be grumpy or choose to be happy. People are funny creatures. Creatures of habit. When I had worked in the video department in my younger life, I would ring up the video rentals for customers. If a customer kept a movie past the due date, they could simply pay the late fee the next time a movie was rented. During checkout if I said- “You have late fees”, the customer would complain and argue that the movie was not late; resulting with me waiving the fee. What I learned was to say to the customer, “Looks like you kept ‘title of movie’ an extra day; did you enjoy it and would you recommend it?” Of course they’d tell me all about the movie as I was ringing up the current videos. After ringing up the video’s and putting them into a bag, I’d say- “Your movie total with the additional day fee is $x.xx.” Customer would pay the said amount (not protesting the late fees) and be on their way. This was a powerful learning curve for me in the public relations environment while at work.
Second, like myself. As strange as this my seem, when I like myself, I feel better which makes me happy. This ties in with the thinking part. Again, I have a choice. It’s spring and wonderful weather certainly helps with the positive thinking. The key for me is, positive thinking. I am my own worst critic. A few months ago I noticed my thoughts were all negative and I didn’t like the way I looked, wasn’t happy at all. I knew it was time to ask the doctor to refill my “happy” pills (Lexapro).
For me what makes me happy is several things that all work together. Like this morning for example. Yesterday I went to my local Bath and Body Works. I bought some lotions, some of the same I already have and a few new scents. Store wide sale, buy 3 get 3. Perfume is something I enjoy and the lotions provide scent at very cost friendly prices. Last evening I had laid out the clothes I wanted to wear for Friday. So that morning when I got out of bed, I was excited to shower and rub my whole body with my new lotion! After getting dressed (not stressing on what to wear), fixing my hair, putting on make-up and smelling wonderful, I felt pretty….and that made me happy!
When those negative thoughts begin to enter my mind, I have to keep reminding myself with positive thinking. I must not compare myself today with the person I was in the past. Take for example my weight. When I look at myself in the mirror or in pictures, I get discouraged. Going through chemo and menopause I have certainly gained weight. Personally this bothers me. Again, I am my own worst critic. One thing I know for a fact, everyone cleans up beautifully. I photograph high school seniors. Each senior is a different size and shape. Not a single one has shown up to a photo session looking bad, but just the opposite, beautiful and lovely. I have to keep reminding myself the first time someone sees me, I am beautiful and lovely (just like the people I photograph).
Today I have explained my thoughts for feeling happier. Next month I will go into more details of simple things I do or will do to make me happy. Doing just one action can create a chain of actions that all together makes it even more easy to be happy. Be looking for Tips for a Healthy Happy Mind part 2 on my next Crohn’s posting.
What have you done to make yourself happy? Sharing is caring….comment below.
Take care and best wishes.